I’ve seen it too many times. People who give their power away. Maybe it’s a boss, a boyfriend/girlfriend or even a stranger. As a Leadership + Life Coach, I have even experienced this with my clients. I remind them that I am a mirror, someone who will reflect and provide perspective but that they are the experts of their lives. We often think someone else will know what’s better for us than ourselves and when we do that, we lose autonomy that results in a lack of confidence and experience feelings of doubt, insecurity and incompetence. So what do you do when you realize you’ve given away your power? You take it back and use it! Here are 18 ways to reclaim your power:
Stop making excuses. Get responsible for your choices and life.
Establish boundaries. Not just with your time and resources but with your mental space.
Make choices from your highest and greatest intentions, not from your circumstances or fear.
Date yourself. Be the type of person you want to be in relationship with and fall in love (with yourself).
Get honest with yourself. Stop lying, defying and denying yourself from the living the life you’re meant to live.
Speak your truth. Use I, My and Me statements.
Make yourself a priority. Make time and space to be with yourself and do things that will nourish your inner landscape.
Make requests. Ask for what you need. Ask for what you want more of and not less of.
Know your worth. Your value cannot be measured through your salary, the number on the scale or the amount of money in your bank account. You were created with purpose.
Make a choice. Indifference, letting the cards fall where they may and not choosing is a defacto choice. Instead, choose powerfully.
Forgive yourself and others. Don’t be a prisoner to past mistakes and wrongdoings. Let go and experience freedom, space and energy.
Manage your mindset. Notice stinking thinking and replace your thoughts with life-giving and affirming truths.
Look within. We are capable, resourceful and whole human-beings. Before asking someone else what they think, ask yourself, what do you think?
Use your words wisely. Your words create your actions. Your actions create your reality.
Don’t let fear run the show. Fear is a healthy indicator. It keeps us from running out in front of a moving car but fear isn’t always dangerous. Consider it a pause to acknowledge what’s going on before proceeding.
Practice self-care. Fill your own cup. What’s in the cup is for you, what’s overflow is to give.
Re-frame failure. Failure is learning. What did you learn and how would you do it differently next time?
Develop a strong sense of self-awareness. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Conduct regular self-inventories to be happy and achieve success.
Start with wherever you are today. You have more power than you realize, now is the time to exercise it. If you feel like you need extra support, be part of a community and join the Fall Courageous Living Group or set up 1:1 private coaching with me.